An attachment style quiz measures the two dimensions that shape how you connect in close relationships: attachment anxiety (how much you worry about rejection and abandonment) and attachment avoidance (how uncomfortable closeness and dependence feel). This quiz uses the ECR-S, a validated 12-item research instrument, and shows your complete results instantly.
12 questions · about 3 minutes · free, no email required · based on the ECR-S (Wei, Russell, Mallinckrodt & Vogel, 2007)
The assessment
12 research-backed questions. Answer honestly — there are no right answers, and your full results appear instantly.
Free · no email required · about 3 minutes
The quiz scores you on the two dimensions that decades of adult attachment research keep converging on. Where you fall on each — relative to the clinical midpoint of 4.0 on a 1–7 scale — determines your attachment style.
How much you worry about being abandoned, whether partners care as much as you do, and how much reassurance you need to feel loved. Measured by six items.
How uncomfortable closeness feels — whether you avoid depending on partners, hold back your feelings, or get nervous when someone gets too close. Measured by six items.
Your two scores place you in one of four styles. Each links to a full guide covering the signs, the science, and how the pattern shifts toward security.
High anxiety, low avoidance. You crave closeness but worry it won't be returned — delayed replies and shifts in tone can send your mind racing.
Read the anxious guideLow anxiety, high avoidance. Independence feels safest. When partners want more closeness, your instinct is to create distance.
Read the avoidant guideHigh anxiety, high avoidance. You want connection fiercely and fear it just as much — craving closeness, then pulling away when it arrives.
Read the fearful-avoidant guideLow anxiety, low avoidance. Closeness feels natural, conflict doesn't feel like abandonment, and you can depend on partners without losing yourself.
Read the secure guideNothing is hidden: the quiz scores the ECR-S exactly the way researchers do, and identically to the Meadow app.
The quiz uses the ECR-S, a validated 12-item instrument with strong reliability across peer-reviewed studies. Self-report has limits — your mood and current relationship can color answers — but the ECR-S is among the most widely used adult attachment measures in research.
The ECR-S (Experiences in Close Relationships Scale — Short Form) is a 12-item questionnaire developed by Wei, Russell, Mallinckrodt, and Vogel in 2007. It measures two dimensions — attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance — as a validated short form of the 36-item ECR.
Secure (low anxiety, low avoidance), anxious (high anxiety, low avoidance), avoidant (low anxiety, high avoidance), and fearful-avoidant (high on both). Your result depends on where each of your two scores falls relative to the 4.0 midpoint.
Yes. Attachment styles are learned patterns, not fixed traits. Longitudinal research shows styles shift with new relationship experiences, therapy, and deliberate daily practice — researchers call the result earned security. Consistent work over weeks to months is what moves the needle.
No. The ECR-S asks how you generally experience close relationships, so you can answer from past relationships or how you imagine yourself responding. If you have never dated, answer from your closest emotional bonds.
Yes, it's free, and no email is required. You see your complete results — attachment style, anxiety and avoidance scores, and percentiles — instantly. Creating an account afterward is optional, and only needed if you want your results saved in the Meadow app.
Attachment anxiety measures how much you worry about abandonment and whether partners care as much as you do. Attachment avoidance measures how uncomfortable closeness and depending on others feel. Each is the average of six questions on a 1–7 scale.
This quiz is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment or a clinical diagnosis. If you are experiencing significant distress, suicidal thoughts, or relationship crises, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988.